Having children is a wonderful experience, which fills us with many moments of joy and love. But also, it is something that tests many things in us, such as our patience, energy and strength.
If we have a support network, partner or close family, the physical and mental burden of raising children can be reduced. But when you are alone, things are not so simple. I share you a reflection on how difficult it can be to be a single mother.
It is no secret that although becoming a mother is something very beautiful, it can also be very hard. First, we go through a total transformation of mind and body, and then be responsible for a baby that depends entirely on us.
And while we are adapting to our new routine with him, at the same time we are recovering ourselves from that great transformation, recognizing our new body and saying goodbye to the person we used to be before being a mother.
In Babies and more, do you suffer from Burnout syndrome? Mothers who can't anymoreThen we pass by those first years in which we turn all our attention and time to the care of our children, to ensure that they do not need anything, and that their development takes place in a healthy way and in the best possible way.
And with the passing of days, weeks, months and years, little by little we wear down, trying to keep in the air and safe all those important and essential pieces that we are juggling: family, home, work, us.
When we live as a couple, responsibility is shared, dividing the burden and working as a team so that everything works as well as we can. But when we are alone, for whatever reason, things are not so simple.
Loneliness and lack of support, the reality of many mothers who are alone
When a mother raises alone and is the only one in charge, the situation can become very difficult when everything falls to one person, although it is true that there are single or divorced mothers who do not have a supportive partner, and despite that they are great.
As we have seen in some studies, raising alone does not influence the academic performance or the development of the children, and they grow as happy as they did in a home where there are two fathers, but in the case of some single mothers, pressure and stress can reach very overwhelming levels.
In Babies and more, more than half of single-parent families in Spain are at risk of poverty An example of this is the issue of family expenses, since having a single income, economic problems can be present. When this happens, they may feel desperate before them, especially when they don't have an environment that supports them either.
But in addition to economic problems, they also encounter mental burden and physical exertion, which can cause us to suffer from burnout or even fall into depression. Thus, It is very important that we remember that despite feeling alone, we are not.
Not everything is bad, but it is important to seek and support
With all this I don't want to say that being a mother alone is something terrible or that everything is negative, because the reality is that although it can be very heavy, not everything is fatigue and sacrifice and motherhood also gives daily moments of happiness.
However, I consider it important to highlight two things we can do to prevent this from happening. The first is that if we know a mother who is raising alone, let's approach and let him know that he worries us, that he is not alone and that he can count on us.
And the second, and I say this from my experience as a divorced mother, is that We are not afraid to ask for help as mothers. A single mother cannot with everything. I know it's easier said than done, but let's look for a support network, be it family or friends, so we don't feel so alone in this adventure called motherhood.
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