We already said it in the first post of the series: by "parenting practice" we were going to see very different acts, with one point in common, the controversy that they raise between fathers and mothers with different points of view when we talk about them.
It is hard for me to place a child among the practices of parenting, but unfortunately, following what this concept means (activities, customs for raising, instructing, educating, caring for children), it is quite common. Now, we should limit ourselves to some senses of "parenting" or "raising," and not even. Because, would anyone say that hitting a cheek is "caring" for a child?
Hitting a child is not raising or educating, it is not caringIn fact, in many countries, as in Spain, it is considered a crime, although many people still do not know it, and there should be no debate or controversy about it. There are institutional and organizational campaigns that ensure children to ensure that this form of child abuse is eradicated in different societies.
However, and we see it every time we touch the topic on the blog, many parents consider that a scourge, a cheek, a spotted, a spanking in time serves to educate, and they try to defend the safety for the child or the positive results in different cases
But we have amply seen the negative consequences that a scourge can cause, not only physically but emotionally. Hitting is not a good way to educate, it is a desperate resource on many occasions that annuls us as parents and as pillars that children have to hold on to grow.
One of the arguments usually used to defend the cheek is that it is not mistreatment. That is not a beating. But, the boundary between a slap and abuse where it is, who puts it. At the moment, the law in many countries already indicates that they are the same. And, if the "simple" cheek or slap we gave it to an adult, would we accept it?
From my point of view I want to emphasize that the scourge, the cheek, the swipe, and, beyond that, the shout (verbal abuse) or blackmail, they teach absolutely nothing beyond fear. They confuse a child who sees how the person they love most hurts him. And they will leave us without arguments when in any situation (even when they hit us in their tantrums) we say "Don't stick".
Cheek is still a very controversial usual practice (recognized or hidden, occasional or continued) that I hope little by little ceases to raise so many opinions found to address us all to the same end: dialogue, positive communication, patience, understanding and respect are the pillars that should govern The upbringing of our children. No excuses or exceptions.
