This Sunday, June 18, we celebrate the Father's day in Mexico, and for this reason I thought it was a good idea to replicate the series of interviews they did a few years ago with blogger dads but now exclusively from Mexico, since none had visited us.
In this country there are a large number of mum bloggers, and blogger dads, although few, also have much to tell us. We started this Father's Day special with Ismael Rodríguez, author of the Papá Moderno blog.
Ismael Rodríguez is a psychologist, married and father of a daughter. At the time of this interview he is a month of turning 34 and is dedicated to clinical psychology, he spends all day in his office.
Tell us a little about yourself and your family
That telling a little about my person makes me a little nervous, it is always hard for me to open from good to first. I studied the degree in psychology and finished it in the organizational branch, just when I finished the degree I got a master's degree in clinical psychology.
There curiously began the series of events that have led me today to talk about my blog and is that in practice I met a girl, who became my best friend.
For almost four and a half years we maintained a close friendship, her mother bothered her that why we weren't dating ... until it happened. A good day having coffee like every Thursday of coffee we decided to be boyfriends, two months later I proposed marriage and six months after the proposal we got married.
Almost a year later we decided it was time to have children and here we are! My wife left psychology and decided to be a full-time mom, but when our daughter grew up a little and she "had" a little time, she decided that not only was she going to leave the career but she was also going to start!
While she started her business, Mielú Studio, I finished a PhD and our days are divided between her company, my office and the upbringing.
What motivated you to write a blog?
More than what motivated me, I think it's who motivated me, the short answer is that my wife motivated me.
What happened was that suddenly I was alone, my life had changed logically by becoming a dad, but nobody told me that I would be alone since my wife was focused on our baby.
As he also gave chest to free demand because everything revolved around them and I had plenty of time. My wife was too tired or too busy to listen to me (which I now know is normal at first) intimacy? forget this! go dancing? Ha, you have to sleep! I mean, you can get an idea of the panorama.
So with free time I came across that I didn't know what to do, so I decided it was time to do a hobby.
The thing is that I became very creative with what I could do, so I went from thinking about growing lettuce, putting together puzzles, being an expert in yo-yo, even thinking about growing snails and that's where I think my wife was already scared.
So one day I made the suggestion of trying to have a blog, I liked the idea and this year the blog turns three years old.
How has fatherhood been for you?
It has been anything but boring. The truth is that I never imagined what I was getting into, you hear stories, but you don't know what it is until you're there.
As much as they told me take advantage of this or that what happens, you do not realize how fast the trip is going. One second you are learning how to change a diaper full of diarrhea and the other second you are answering questions about the origin of babies.
Fatherhood has been the most beautiful experience of my life, nothing and really nothing, it has given me the joys (fears and anguishes too) that I have experienced. I don't see myself playing the role of nothing but dad.What has been your biggest challenge as a father? Was there anything you thought would be easy and it turned out that it wasn't?
I never thought it was easy, but I didn't imagine that I would live tired. Tiredness has become my companion, either because I played or because I didn't sleep because we had a night with a fever, I just live like this, tired.
I think that the biggest challenge has been on a personal level, I come from a somewhat macho family and being able to realize these lessons and change them has not been easy, it still fails me, but every day that passes I try a little more and try Be a little better dad.
Another challenge and I did not know it was going to be a challenge is that I get anxious at the first sneeze, I never imagined being so catastrophic in terms of health, it is curious, we are adventurous, reckless, we like to jump some social conventions, but nothing more sneezes or cough and I saw myself at the pediatrician.
What do you most enjoy or like about being a father?
I love to see how my daughter is discovering the world. Being able to witness his discoveries, his reasoning, his games, his mistakes and basically everything he does is phenomenal to me.
In addition, I discover myself in different ways with each challenge that it puts in our days, we are currently in the phase of inquiring about processes, then I realize everything I ignore from the world and I start studying to answer your questions ... or at least I am trying.
What advice would you give to other parents?
That they get involved as much as they can, that they think that every moment they let go is a moment that will never be repeated and what is the point of letting the moments go?
Paternity is a fleeting thing, in a second the children stop asking to be loaded or lulled.Committing to parenting is an adventure, there is no day like another, some are better than others, but in general you only have two paths or you get involved and you dare to live a love that in life you will experience or stay distant and complaining .
The fears are normal, so to the new parents I recommend that you ignore those fears a little, that you venture to new horizons to grow every day with your children.
We thank Ishmael who has dedicated a little of his time to tell us about his fatherhood and his blog Modern Dad. In the next days before Father's Day in Mexico we will be sharing more interviews with Mexican parents.
