Dear Dad:
I know that Mom told you about the letter I wrote yesterday, because I hear you from here and I saw Mom very excited explaining my words to you. I also know that you are waiting for my letter, because I told her that I would write you one so you wouldn't get jealous and, although I know you said "woman, why would I get jealous. I understand.", I wanted to write it to you also because you should also know some things before the day comes.
The first of all is to ask you to be patient that day, because that of giving birth and that of being born is not like it happens in American films (and in Spanish ones if you hurry me). I am tired of seeing almost instantaneous deliveries with women who seem to be about to kill someone of the screams they hit and babies that come out with skunk that makes you want to even pinch them.
No dad, the reality is not that. On the day that my mother is going to be born, she will let you know that I am on my way and calm, you will not need to run to look for the car leaving Mom and the bags behind, nor will you need to call the hospital to warn that you are on your way . Be patient, mom will tell you how everything is going. Maybe she even decides to take a shower and dress quietly to be better with herself.
When I am ready or when the contractions are quite rhythmic and regular (say every 5 minutes or less), I may tell you that it is a good time to go to the hospital, if you have decided that I will be born in a hospital, of course. Once there be aware of mom. She will be on her own, which is no small, so the best thing is that you don't talk much, don't distract her, and let her disconnect from the worldly noise to connect with me and her feelings.
Talk to him only if he asks you to. I know it may take a few hours, but you don't need to fill them out because yes, because the best way forward is to help mom to be calm and to focus on her own (just like when you make love, I don't hear you talk ).
If someone comes to ask you things, try to anticipate a bit to answer yourself. Let's say it is not advisable for someone to come in and ask for your name, your ID or what you ate two days ago because it will make Mom have to divert her attention to that thought or that memory memory, moving away from childbirth (come on, that thing you can slow down if people make you think).
Similarly, try, once you read my letter, talk a little with mom about what you expect from my birth. Not all hospitals work the same way and not all gentlemen in white and green coats do things the same way, so it is possible that Mom has some expectations and desires that at the time of giving birth she cannot defend. If you don't want my cord cut too quickly, if you don't want an episiotomy done, ... I don't know, those things.
It will pass the time, the thing will advance and, simply, I will be born. That's how I'll meet you, dad, that's how you'll meet me. It will be the first time I smell you, the first time I see you and the first time I hear your voice clearly. It will be the first time you see me, the first time you take me and the first time you smell me.
Do not feel strange if you see me as a stranger (worth the redundancy) because I will see you equally as a stranger. Be patient and be patient with me, because little by little we will get to know each other better and we will certainly get along better.
By this I mean that the first weeks I will want to be with you, no doubt, but in peak moments I would rather be with mom, not for anything personal, but because with her I have more confidence. I am as old as I am, I will always know her nine months before you and those nine months weigh heavily at first, because I will be born impregnated with her smell, her taste and her world. In fact, when they put me on their chest, my body, sterile, will colonize inside with mom's bacteria.
In addition, as to calm down, what is best for me is to suck and / or eat, when choosing, I will always choose Mom, who is the one who can breastfeed me. Once calm, if I'm awake, take me, that I would love to meet you and share time with you.
Well, I don't tell you much more because everything will come after birth. If a warning: I know that parents really like to get up in the air as if we were airplanes, Superman or similar, but it can be weeks, what do I say weeks, months can pass, if not years, until we find it funny. For the rest, it is not so difficult. Try put you in my place always and think about what I may be feeling in each moment to understand myself and so the way will be much easier ("think like a baby, not like an adult").
PS: I love you too. I will love you too.
