We continue to prepare for the return after the summer talking about children when parents work outside the home and need to go to an outside caregiver. We are going to interview psychologist Valentina Ganem today, with whom we will talk about nurseries and other alternatives for childcare, delving into the different options and looking for what best helps children live those moments in the happiest way possible.
Valentina Ganem She is a child psychologist, an expert in early care in children and in a person-centered psychological approach (Gestalt) and is a specialist in Expression and Psychomotor skills, in the Pedagogical Method through the Body Movement and the Senses and is also a breastfeeding consultant . He has run groups of children together with their parents for 10 years and gives talks for parents. Founder and director of cReCeR jUnToS cOn ArTe.
Is the best place for a child a daycare or is it your home?
The best place for children is their own environment.
Do they not need the nursery to "socialize"?
We believe that children need to go to daycare to learn to "socialize" and thus help them grow. Young children do not socialize at that age: they are in the "self-centered" evolutionary stage. You will see them playing alone and only interact when they want another child's toy or want to invade their space. Our children need to feel safe and protected to grow and then meet and discover the world around them!
But it is not always possible for children to be at home, what do we do in these cases?
Starting from the fact that our home is the best place for our children, there are family and economic circumstances for which it is necessary to look for a nursery so that our child is cared for and protected outside our home.
Can we help and prepare our little one for the entrance to the nursery?
The ideal age to think about taking a child to daycare is between two and a half years or three years. It is when he can understand: “Mom leaves, but comes back for me. He doesn't abandon me. " For children it is a place they know, where they feel cared for, protected, respected ... From my own experience, I have seen that in these groups it is easier for the child to gradually separate from his parents. In what cases is daycare better than other forms of care? When we have no alternatives for babysitters, or a suitable family member, or day mothers, and we need to join the job ... What are the advantages and disadvantages of mothers by day? Mothers of the day are educators. These people offer a house that is usually their own home. The attention is very personalized, the schedule is flexible for each family, the atmosphere is very familiar and the maximum is 4 children. Although in Spain in recent years it has increased, there is the paradox that it is very difficult to get a place for your little one. There is still a shortage of this education model. And to hire a babysitter? One of the advantages of having a babysitter is that the child will be at home and the separation phase will be easier. Disadvantages: in certain occasions it does not enter the family budget. What do I have to observe to choose a good babysitter? Observe that the person who takes care of your child not only gets to love your child, but also be patient with his tears and his worries and, above all, to play with him. The game generates complicity and trust! What opinion do you deserve that grandparents take care of their grandchildren if the parents work? Grandparents, in most cases, are a source of love and compression; But sometimes their way of raising our children does not match our own. Let's be clear that we can't change grandparents. It will depend on the things we can assume "to overlook." For example: give him sweets whenever they want or take him to bed later; things that we don't usually do. But grandparents are a great help to your child when it comes to overcoming the "separation anguish." Fun, play and complicity helps separation! Now, when the way of raising grandparents, is based on abuse, such as whipping, verbal aggression, manipulation ... your child will not be protected, it will be better to find another place for our children. We thank the psychologist Valentina Ganem the time she has dedicated to us in this interview and tomorrow we will continue talking with her, the advice she will give us to improve the adaptation of the children to the separation and the nursery will be, of course, very useful.
