There is less than a week until the end of 2013 and that is why, for a few days, we wanted to make a few summaries with the best of 2013 so that, before moving on to 2014, you can review the most read entries and more Valued by readers.
One of the issues that concerns all parents most is the education we offer them. How to do it to give them some values, to show them the way, to make them good people. That's why we are going to show you next the best posts on parenting of 2013.
Why not let them cry: children's brains are not a muscle, but rather a flower
Many people have always believed, and still believe, that for children to grow autonomous and independent, so that they are self-sufficient, they must be left alone, since they were little, so that they are the ones who learn to do things. Something like starting to teach them how hard life can be, the sooner the better, so that they learn not to need anyone.
However, for a while it has been known that young children, unable to manage stress and anxiety in the same way that adults do, should not live hard situations, great dislikes or moments of tension, or at least not in a way premeditated and continued, because we run the risk of achieving the opposite effect: that in adulthood, don't be able to manage that stress and anxiety, because as a child nobody helped them to do it.
From children who live close to their mothers
They call them spoiled, spoiled children, glued to their mother's skirt from which they will never ever separate. They will always call mom, it is said, even when they go to college, all because they are one or two years old and still not autonomous. A review of why is normal Many children live close to their mothers.
When the expiration date arrives with the attachment
After several years raising my children as I think it is better, which in fact is the way I get, with love, with respect, treating them as I would like to be treated if I was a child, I realized that many parents raised to their children in a similar way, but with expiration date. One day they got tired of doing it, or began to counter their needs to those of their children and fell into the educational philosophy they had criticized so much.
Is it possible to breed with attachment when you have three children (or more)?
And in an attack of sincerity, because I prefer to explain that even when we intend to do it always well we fail, and much, I got to wonder if it was possible raise your children with respect how much you already have three or more, because with one everything was a path of roses, or almost, with two there were still flowers everywhere, but to which there were three, the thing was complicated to the point that I saw myself on more than one occasion screaming and operating the way "automatic" educational.
Why not return to the authoritative education that our parents gave us
But that style of automatic education is what we have suckled, in my case, in my house, a authoritarian style to which many professionals and many fathers and mothers would like society to return, but whose adoption would be a mistake, because it would be to go back in many ways at a time when, despite not being the best, because there is too much permissiveness, we have advanced. Now we should step forward towards a democratic style in which the recognition of paternal, maternal authority and education professionals is sought.
How does parenting style affect children's brain development?
To talk a little about parenting, and looking for extremes, we rescued a study in which the brains of children who had spent their earliest childhood in orphanages in Romania were analyzed, finding that these children had less active areas than children raised by their parents.
The smell of babies is as addictive as the drug
Another study, very curious, showed that women's brains reacted Like people who use drugs when they smell their baby's pajamas. A surprising finding that shows that even the smell of our children helps us to love them and want to be with our children.
If we understand that babies need us by day, why don't we understand that they need us at night?
If we take care of you during the day, if we try not to cry, if we try to meet your needs, it makes no sense that at night we do something different. They are the same day and night, in fact, they also sleep a lot during the day, however there are theories that do not stop insisting that at night we must treat them differently, stopping them from attending, leaving them crying, leaving them alone, so that Learn not to need us at night (or not to call us even if you need us, which is worse).
The orange rhino challenge: join him and stop yelling at your children
Created by a mother who realized that on the street she managed to educate her children without screaming and at home they were all screaming, when their most important "public" were them and not the people from abroad, decided a good day to create the orange rhino challenge to stop yelling at them and start doing different things, otherwise. His challenge spread throughout the world, even reaching Spain.
For future parents: your child will love you more than anything in the world
And finally, as perhaps useful advice for upcoming parents, or for recent parents, this one in which we explain that Children come to the world willing to give us all their love, their time and their love, and that it is our responsibility to correspond and love them too. That way it is easier for everything to flow, for a trust relationship to be created and for everything to be easier.
